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During the Funeral Service
Much like any other social event, a funeral service can present us with unique challenges especially if we don't know what to expect. Here's a list of some of the things you may or may not know about funeral services:
Funeral homes do their best to provide adequate parking facilities but spaces may be hard to find. Do your best to arrive 10-15 minutes early.
Depending on the location of the funeral, your entrance may be governed by protocol. Often, guests are asked to remain unseated until the family has taken their seats. Sometimes, ushers are provided to escort you to your seat. If you're unclear about what to do, just watch others or ask the funeral attendant.
Depending on the location, the ceremony may be officiated by a pastor, minister, celebrant or funeral director.
Remember that the front seats are intended for immediate family members.
Expect to receive a copy of the funeral order-of-service (or program), which details what will happen during the ceremony. It will tell you which hymns will be sung and the names the prayers to be read.
Depending on what's in the order-of-service, you will have the opportunity to participate in various activities. You may be asked to stand to sing a hymn or kneel in prayer; only participate to the degree you feel comfortable.
If the service is less traditional and more a celebration-of-life, you may be asked to participate. You may find yourself requested to place a flower in the casket. Some families ask their guests to write a note to the deceased and place it in the casket. We suggest doing only as much as you feel comfortable doing.
Will People Cry?
These pivotal life moments are very emotionally-charged. That means you can certainly expect to find people crying at a funeral. It's always helpful to remember to bring some tissues however, the funeral home staff will also have some.
Here's something you should also know: people laugh at funerals too. A funeral is a rich, bittersweet mixture of sorrow and joy. Without doubt, emotions run high at funerals; sometimes there's even a demonstration of anger by one or more of the survivors.
How to Leave the Funeral
The funeral officiant will make it very clear that the funeral service is over. They will invite the chief mourners (the immediate family and close friends) to leave the building first. Guests are expected to wait for the rows in front of them to empty before stepping out into the aisle.
Guests and family may collect outside the location for some quiet conversation. If you choose to follow the hearse and casket to the cemetery or crematory, you'll be given clear directions by members of the funeral home staff. If you choose to leave at this point in the funeral, make a quiet, discreet exit.
Make a note to contact the bereaved family by phone in the next week or so. Offer them the opportunity to talk about their loss and if you're willing, make a few suggestions about chores and other things you could do for them. Know that even if they decline your offer, they'll be delighted to know you're thinking of them enough to call.
Call Us to Learn More
Whether this is your first funeral service or your 100th, it can be an unnerving experience. If you have specific questions about what to expect during a funeral service, give us a call at (440) 942-0700. We'll be privileged to assist you.